Being single does not mean you cannot be happy. However those who are newly single may feel they cannot achieve the same level of fulfillment solos, as they would with a partner. Naturally, social and familial pressures to “find someone”, doesn’t make life any easier.
Before you become engulfed in a state of melancholy there are few things you should keep in mind. Even the happiest of couples have learned to make their relationship work through the lessons they have learned.
Additionally, being single can help you gain valuable insight into love - insights that can be used when you find yourself in another relationship.
Here are 3 love lessons you can take away from basking in your singlehood
1. Being loved does not require being in love
Most women have a tendency to believe that not having a partner makes them unworthy and unlovable. I have found and can vouch this faulty belief is nothing further from the truth. Being single intentionally makes you realize that love can extend beyond romance. Without the “partner crutch” you become more aware of the abundance of love that is already around you.
This love comes from your family, friends, kids (in some cases) and most importantly from within. After all, self-love is the basis on which you can build a loving relationship. Realizing that being loved does not require being in love or attached, makes you a better partner to someone. Healthy relationships thrive on balance and individually while enjoying all the benefits of couple-hood.
2. Your old wounds can only be healed by you
After a breakup, you may have heard that getting back into a relationship will prevent you from thinking about the heartbreak. Wrong~ on so many levels. Here is why.
The problem in reality is that these “rebound” relationships often add more anguish than they can heal. See, someone else can't do the healing for you as that is an inside job. You absolutely must allow yourself the space to process what went wrong, and learn from this worthy lesson. Having no romantic distractions helps you in reconnecting with yourself and what you desire from life. Eventually you discover that unconditional self love heals all wounds, and that welcoming more love into your life, will amplify it 10X.
3. You can become complete all on your
From Movie Lines to generational stories, women were told that they need to find their other half and become complete. I would argue that this is not a beneficial way to enter new relationships, as living a life expecting someone else to make you complete breeds unhealthy co-dependent relationships. There is nothing more rewarding than realizing that you can become complete all on your own and that whom ever enters your life is just going to embellish it that much more.
If you are interested in learning how to love yourself and become complete so you can joyfully and fearlessly enter the dating world, consider joining me for my Quarterly Pre-Paid event on Sep 4th at 12 PM PDT.
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